True friendship, just like true love is not easy to come by. We often make mistakes when choosing friends. It could be because we’re afraid of being alone or we think that they are doing us a favor by being our friends. Here are a few pointers to help you know if your friend is worth keeping or not:
1. They embarrass you in public. This is the kind of friend who would go out of his/her way just to embarrass you before others. They always make mean comments about you, just to make you feel bad. The worst thing about this is that they save their mean comments for when something good is happening to you or when you’re just hanging out with other friends. If such a friend is not jealous of you, then he/she just hates seeing you happy.
2. They are selfish and self-centered Friendship involves being there for each other, both emotionally and physically. A selfish friend won’t care about what’s going on with you. They are always not there for you when you need them. They always make everything about themselves. They won’t listen to what you have to say. They will cut you short every time you start talking about something that happened to you, turn the conversation around and make it about them. They will only come to you when they need something from you and forget that you exist when life is treating them well.
3. They are always on the receiving end Friendship is two-way. It’s a give-and-take kind of relationship. There are some friends who are always receiving things from their friends, be it emotional support or material things. Their hands are always open when they need something from their friends. When tables are turned, and it’s the friend that is in need, their hands are always tight-fisted. They don’t help at all, even with advice.
4. They always want to play the leading role as you play the supporting role in your friendship. They always want to be at the top of everything. They want to have a better paying job than you, have better clothes, a better-looking boyfriend, and look more beautiful than you. They never want you to outshine them. If by any chance, you overshadow them in any aspect of your life, then conflicts will arise. Such a friend is not worth keeping. Friendship is like a partnership where all members are equal. You can’t always play second fiddle to someone in the name of friendship. Such a friendship is not worth your time.
In conclusion, this is my opinion on fake friends. Friendship is relative, and everybody has their taste and preferences. Feel free to share your thoughts on this topic. I’m curious to know what you think about fake friends.
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